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Romance in MMOs

Postby Past » Sat Feb 12, 2011 9:19 am

I was wondering what you guys thought about having a love interest with another player in an MMO game such as World of Warcraft or other popular online game?

Do you think an online girlfriend or boyfriend should be limited to the game world such that each of you is more or less role playing the relationship as if it were your characters that are dating?

I met a guy online who I've actually connected with on facebook too. He is really cute and nice and knows that I'm a guy too. But in the game he is fine dating as a boy and girl couple (with me the girl of course, since I only play female characters). He's not gay but we both have feelings for each other in the game and we've actually gotten quite close. Is this a recipe for disaster or as long as it is in game, something like this can continue? I'm fine with the latter I guess.
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Sukunai » Sun Feb 13, 2011 3:28 pm

In as much as two guys playing an MMO together becoming 'interested' sounds like it does, but the truth is, if an online relationship never goes past being a non in person relationship, then it is folly to believe it really IS a relationship.

Until a couple is lying sweaty in a bed together from actual intimate play time, you simply are not a couple.

And while I might have said otherwise in the past, this is today and I say it with the benefit of hindsight now.

Couples that never actually meet in the real world are kidding themselves.

You will never be more than just a faceless online friend till you make it otherwise. And faceless online friends eventually leave. And often it is sudden and without any real signs or warnings, one day it will just be over.

My advice, enjoy the shared time. But don't expect it to be real till you make it real.
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Krimson » Mon Feb 14, 2011 10:43 pm

My ex was into this in Second Life to the point where she actually jumped on a plane and rendezvoused with the guy in Las Vegas. How's that for a relationship breaker?

Similarly I had an in character relationship with a girl from Sweden in NWN. Of course we both knew it was in character, and so did her husband. I get along with both of them, and even though I no longer play NWN I still keep in contact with them over Facebook and Skype.

I generally avoid any kind of online romance these days. I do also have a female avatar in Second Life, but she rarely talks and for the most part is eye candy for me. I'm such an avacon!
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Past » Tue Feb 15, 2011 8:33 am

I've actually experienced the situation "without any real signs or warnings, one day it will just be over" regarding online romances. From previous games that I decided to stop playing and for some reason we don't keep in touch on Facebook anymore. Sadly I always seem to start getting lovey with someone right after I have decided to quit playing a particular MMO. I decided to quit playing WoW because it lost it's charm (besides the social aspect), and now this is the 3rd time. I did tell him I was planning on quitting.

The guy seems mostly interested in limiting the romance to cyber sex for now. I guess I make a satisfying enough partner, or maybe it's because he likes futanari. That could be key because I don't think many girls would enjoy putting themselves into the role of dick girl even if they were willing to engage in cybersex with a guy they've never met.

I guess I am a good match for him, I mean if it was somebody else, who would lend themselves to wanting to entertain his fantasy?

A straight girl - unlikely
lesbian - definitely not
gay guy - unlikely
straight guy - definitely not

My reasons for sticking with him, if this ever pans out, is that he is someone that kinda has an understanding of my unique needs when it comes to a partner. I am attracted to him and I am having fun but this could still all just be a pipe dream.
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby chrisb » Tue Feb 15, 2011 9:11 am

Past wrote:The guy seems mostly interested in limiting the romance to cyber sex for now.


But it is more emotional than just friendly chat and then him wanting to cyber sex right? Maybe a 70-30 balance?

Just saying be careful because he may only be interested in keeping it at that level while you're expecting something deeper.

Despite my cautious attitude I do wish you the best of luck!
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Past » Wed Feb 16, 2011 9:13 am

Krimson wrote:I generally avoid any kind of online romance these days. I do also have a female avatar in Second Life, but she rarely talks and for the most part is eye candy for me. I'm such an avacon!
So you never had an interest in filling the role of girl? Just worried about how to deal with guys coming onto you or not able to capture the emotion of the situation right? I don't play female characters for the eye candy aspect (maybe a little), I do because it's just much more natural for me.

chrisb wrote:But it is more emotional than just friendly chat and then him wanting to cyber sex right? Maybe a 70-30 balance?
He usually initiates the desire to "role play" as he calls it. I just became interested in chatting with him because he has some unusual qualities. I had no idea that it was going to turn into this.
chrisb wrote:Despite my cautious attitude I do wish you the best of luck!
Thanks chris.
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Sukunai » Wed Feb 16, 2011 12:29 pm

In my time I have role played as a girl at the table during a paper n pencil role game. It was utterly pointless though. I was seated at a table where insecure young males were totally fixated on who had the biggest stat, gun, AC whatever. All they really wanted to do was kill something, and frankly they didn't give a flying fuck what your Intelligence stat was let alone if your PC was attractive.

Fact 1, your PC wasn't in the game YOU were. So the stats were not relevant if not directly connected to killing something.

Fact 2, role playing only mattered when you couldn't kill the challenge, and then no one listened to the ostensibly 'smart' PC, the only voice you had was your own, and if your idea sucked, you got ignored.

Fact 3, most people are not playing a role game out of some need to fulfill a need to do essentially what people do in drama or acting. Most people also can't act.

Of all the times I have written 'female' in the particulars of a PC record sheet, in more than 30 years of role gaming, it might have mattered once. I'm assuming it mattered at least once. I am not entirely sure.

My wife always role games as a male dwarf. No idea why. Maybe she's just able to understand there is no gain from even caring.

I spent a lot of the 90s on ICQ chatting. It was pre web camera days and all you had were stated gender details if any. Not that it mattered.
I was greeted so often by 'what colour panties do you have on?' so often, that I have a firm belief, that most men are right fucking idiots. Being called Sarge just wasn't convincing enough if you have a girl's first name (according to some).

Seeeeeeeen it all people.
I had a watercop from LA strung along for months thinking I was the greatest thing he had ever met.
Half the girls I chatted with thought I was a girl.
No easy way to know if they were all girls of course.

I once even enjoyed the ultimately funny moment of sharing a hysterical laugh with another close girlfriend online, when I showed her the source of the gal pay site this guy had supposedly cleverly thought to pretend was him (all so he could brag to us about his 9 inch cock).
Yes I encountered plenty of gay porn sites while looking for entirely straight ones in the process. A total fluke I found the precise same image this short dicked loser had chosen.
We had quite the laugh telling him to fuck off and take his phony pecker with him hehe.

I spent probably more than 10 years as the surrogate mother for this really nice young lady I know from the US. She appreciated the advice, and I felt no reason to deny her access to the ear of a older woman.

I've never menstruated, don't pee sitting and bust size is not an issue.
Aside from that though, I likely am able to be as much woman as most women.
Not sure if that is an alarming accomplishment, or an interesting indictment on the ability of modern women to properly act like real women more so than an actual man.

I do know this much though. Short of meeting me in person, I am likely the most completely disguised male you will meet most days unless I wish to identify my gender, such as it is between the legs, as between the ears even I am uncertain most days.
Expert counsel, generous advice from friends, and my own knowledge has left me realizing, I am all that a man needs to be a man, and yet, I live half my day with a woman's frame of mind all the same.
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Past » Thu Feb 17, 2011 7:43 am

Well in World of Warcaft it kind of makes it easy when I look completely and unmistakably like a chick. Just on numerous occasions when a person I am talking to - who with other players should be skeptical a female toon is really female - assumed I am female without me even trying. At least according to what they say. In other words my natural personality, manner of speaking, expressions shines through as female not just because I happen to look like a girl (in the game). I'm beginning to think if I played a male toon that people would comment that they are suspicious that I'm a girl playing a male toon.

When tabletop gaming, which I don't know much about, or any type of RPG where you can actually see the other players, it's kind of hard to take other's attention off the fact that they are playing with a guy. When I am in MMO my male physical self becomes irrelevant and the appearance of my character and that of everyone else in the game replaces it. Isn't that kinda how other people look at it?
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Re: Romance in MMOs

Postby Sukunai » Thu Feb 17, 2011 4:46 pm

There's a well established joke on the internet that we all know.

There are no girls online :)

Well that's not 100% true of course, but the only topic I have ever found that permits girls or females, to be themselves is anime.

I guess it is because the hobby has so many female friendly aspects regardless of the incredible sum of silly tits, pantie scenes and outright idiotic male pandering fan service.
Thing is, there is no shortage of female pandering stuff as well.

I never encounter females that are easily capable of being casually accepted as females anywhere else on the net.

And thanks to my manner of speaking (typing) since 1990 when disability crushed my future and stuck me in a home to spend all day being a defacto mr mom if not actual competition with my wife, I often get mistaken for a woman.
With the exception of about 30 minutes a day, when my wife is definitely the female in bed, she tends to do a splendid job of aping all the most annoying habits of the cliche North American male.
Spent most of the 90s complaining about a lot of that often to the howls of the girls I regularly chatted with, who often needed to be reminded I wasn't a housewife like them.

My feet don't swell once a month. My hormones don't bounce around once a month. I have no need for pads once a month. I do not require birth control pills.
Sorry, the thing is, I have the other set of plumbing hehe.
But the internet, it makes it possible to mistaken easy enough.
Short of seeing me on a web cam, I likely will sound like most guys wives.
I feel like a wife most days.

I think the main reason I have sex each morning, is it's like taking a prescription for my mental health. Regular doses of assurance, yes, you are a male.
I actually worry, seriously worry, would my sense of maleness diminish if I didn't have sex in the morning?
There sure is nothing much else making me feel masculine most days.

Role gaming as a female is almost like playing with fire in my life lately.
Expert counsel, generous advice from friends, and my own knowledge has left me realizing, I am all that a man needs to be a man, and yet, I live half my day with a woman's frame of mind all the same.
I'd rather something in the way of more mundane troubles :)


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